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September is the 9th month of the year. It is the end of the 3rd quarter and summer. Sometimes it is hot and sometimes it is unusually cooler but every time it is busy. Vacations are normally over and everyone is in school by September. It is time to get back to a schedule, set goals and soar! I have so many goals for this new season that I am going to have to pace myself but I am still planning to soar to new heights. I am normally not a risk taker but I’m taking more risk now than ever before. Why? Because I am not getting any younger. I do not know exactly when the end of my life will be and finally, I want to. Yes, I want to see how far I can go, how high I can reach and how much I can accomplish before I leave this earth. It may sound a bit morbid but it is true. So how high do you want to go? How far do you want to reach? When it’s all said and done, what do you want to have accomplished in your life? Think about it. My father always said, “if human beings are designed to do it, so can you.” Soar! There are less than 4 months or a little more than 100 days left in this year. Each day set a goal. Do it and then set another goal and then, do that too. It will shock you how much you can get accomplished if you let nothing stop you from reaching your goals. Finally, don’t compare your goal to someone else’s. Be sure that you, ‘do you’ and not try to be someone else. Be the best you that you can be and SOAR!
Upcoming for me.
September 16 – Speaker at New Life SDA, Louisville, KY
September 14-16 – Gaslight Festival, Jeffersontown, KY
October 26-November 2 – BK Royston Publishing Book Fair – Foster Traditional Academy, Louisville, KY – Fundraiser for schools – For more information, email us at firstname.lastname@example.org and put “bookfest fundraiser” in the subject line
November 10, 2018 – Writer’s Block Festival, Spalding University, Louisville, KY – Vendor
November 17, 2018 – Holiday Bookfest, Jefferson Mall, Louisville, KY – Authors register at http://bit.ly/bookfestvendor
February 9, 2019 – Bookfest in Dallas, Northeast Mall, Dallas, TX – Authors register at http://bit.ly/bookfestvendor
Queen and King – You are Royalty!
Today I hear the term Queen and/or King used quite frequently. The movie Black Panther helped escalate this use of the term on the street after so many around the world saw the depiction of African royalty on the big screen. I enjoyed the movie very much. I also watched intently the British Royal Wedding of Prince Harry to Meghan Markle with enthusiasm and excitement. The pomp and circumstance throughout the ceremony and the broadcasts were incredible. This very popular and well-known young woman was saying no to Hollywood and now saying, yes to a Prince was every young girl’s dream. All girls are princesses awaiting prince, right? Because I don’t live in a monarchy ruled country, I really needed the narrators and facilitators to inform and explain so many things, introduce and distinguish the people and their titles that were the invited guests and participants throughout the wedding ceremony. Their comments were priceless. All of the rules, regulations and traditions that had to be followed was overwhelming to hear about let alone know that now, this very American young woman’s life was be changed forever after marrying this prince. She would now be guided and subjected to a whole new life with little or no pre-requisites, just a normal upbringing, love in her heart for a prince no less, he asked the question and she said, yes. Yes. That’s all, just a yes but, how much that yes would entail? My guess is a lot. What does that have to do with you? I’m glad that you asked. Whether you are a woman/Queen or man/King, there are some responsibilities that go along with royalty. There are some things that we must do to live up to the “Royal Priesthood and Holy Nation” that God has called us to. In my upcoming book, “Queen: Lessons from Esther” we can learn a lot from this young woman. Someone born into a humble Jewish family and rose to be in Queen in a foreign country. How did she get here? What did it take for her to stay there? This upcoming book will release during the weekend of September 14-16 at the Gaslight Festival and at the New Life SDA Church, Louisville, KY held at the Union Community Center 4019 Dixie Highway, Louisville, KY on Sunday, September 16th from 4:00 – 7:00 p.m. What does it take to be Queen? Find out soon…
Jump into June!
We’re not quite half of the way done with this year yet but almost there. As a sports fan, getting to half time with the lead is great but you’ve got to finish the second quarter strong to get or keep that lead going into half time. Why? Because you want to go hard for your dreams, goals and purpose in June so that you can build and keep that momentum going into the rest of the year. There is still a lot of year still left to go and live. There is still time for you to start and finish those things from January that you put on your vision board, resolution list and those secret dreams that you’ve told no one.
Start where you start – What haven’t you started? What have you started and not finished? That’s where you start. Go back to the beginning of what you wanted to start and start.
If you started and stopped, why? – What happened? Did life happen or did you happen to your life? You stopped because you were tired, bored or no longer interested? Know the things that hinder or distract your progress. Why? Because it will happen again and you need to be ready for it.
What do you need to finish and complete the project? – Is it money? Is it people? Is it an opportunity? Is it you? Write it down and pick up the phone. We call people or search on the Internet for anything else we want to know about, do it for your dream. Jump in with both feet, hands and heart this June to the life and goals you want to achieve for yourself. Time is not waiting and it’s almost half time. Let’s go!
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Self-Talk: What Do You Tell Yourself?
It was 1963 and the doctor said, “It is a girl!” My parents were thrilled but concerned when they saw that my toes were pointed east and west rather than north and south. For the first nine years of life, there was much time and money spent on doctor visits. “Julia has a terrible speech impediment.” “Julia’s vision is 200/200 rather than 20/20.” “Mr. and Mrs. Foree, Julia has failed the hearing test.” A nurse said in a crowded gym for all to hear, “Julia Foree’s weight is 100 lbs. and she’s six years old.” There have been countless unhappy moments surrounding my weight but, overall, I’ve had a happy life. I have wonderful, loving parents, two sisters who were opposite from me but somewhere behind those grimaced faces they really do love me.
In everyone’s life there are good and bad times, achievement, excitement, disappointment and failure. I have had my share. Over the course of my life, I have learned to maximize the positive and minimize the negative. I don’t avoid or run from negativity in my life but I realize that I can’t control others or dwell on their opinion of me.
Being the fat girl, wearing glasses with a speech impediment wasn’t pretty and definitely wasn’t fun. As I got older, I had the nerve to shade the lenses color on my glasses. Sometimes it was rose, other times it was brown and once it was even blue. Yuck, what was I thinking but I was trying to make the most of my poor vision by trying to make it as stylish as possible. Surprisingly, I always had friend. I was fun, cute for a fat girl, people often said, outgoing, talkative and gifted. My gift is what saved my life. At nine, I sang my first solo in church and my life changed forever. I had a gift like no other nine-year-old or some teenagers for that matter. Throughout my teenage years, I didn’t have many dates with boys but I had a lot of dates to sing in churches around the city, state and nation. From the eight track player to the record player to the cassette tapes to boom boxes and CD players. I had it all. My parents gave me all of the tools to support my gift. The one thing they couldn’t give me was a positive self-image. I had confidence on the stage, academically above average in the classroom and played a musical instrument through college but when I looked in the mirror, I didn’t see much. I would laugh at myself more than anyone laughed at me. My family often tells me that I wasn’t as fat as I made myself out to be. But, it’s what you tell yourself that counts. Self-talk can demean you more than anyone else can. I had great friends who would defend me against anyone. I went to dances. I went to prom. My family went on vacations every year and in my circle, I was popular. I didn’t live in a dysfunctional family or was abused by anyone. I did every conceivable diet known to man but lost and gained weight repeatedly. It was frustrating but it took a toll on my self-esteem. Remember it’s what you say to yourself, how you see yourself and the boundaries, limits and tolerance level that you place on yourself that matters. Maximizing the positive should have been easy because there were so many positive things going on in my life, but instead, I allowed the one negative aspect of my life to magnify and intensify my poor self-image.
In my senior year in college, there was a young man stationed in the military who came to my church. He was handsome, manner able and suddenly took an interest in me. It was a shock to me. I had so little experience that I was hesitant, skeptical and turned him down repeatedly but he didn’t take no for an answer. There were several other young women and their mothers who were certainly interested in him, but he chose me. Finally, I had a good announcement, I had a boyfriend, then a fiancé and then a husband. It was a miracle. It lasted for four years as a couple and eight years on paper.
It is now 1993 and the announcement from my ex-husband that ended the marriage was, “My mama says you have to go.” This was clearly the lowest moment in my life. I was more than 1100 miles from home, little money, in my night gown, rollers in my hair, my clothes being tossed into a suitcase by a man who said he loved me but his mama said I had to go so I had to go. This was the last straw of a situation that had too many details to name here but this was finally it. I had had enough of a bad situation. At that moment, it didn’t matter about my weight, it mattered about my life. I stayed that night but the next day, I took action. I quit my job, emptied my bank account, called my father to make arrangements to have someone come and drive me home. I had a safe place to be until they arrived and it was all set.
I got home, worked temp services and then enrolled in a graduate program which I completed in one year while working two jobs. I was headed in a new direction with new people to meet, places to go and things to experience.
What did I learn?
Love Yourself – Sure, I should take care of myself, eat better, exercise more and maybe lose weight but what good is a perfect body with a tormented soul? I first had to fall in love with me. This is not an arrogant, self-centered, self-absorbed, can’t stand to be around her type of love, this is a love of myself so that I can be the best self that I was destined to be. You don’t love yourself when you allow yourself to stay in toxic mental, emotional and financial relationships. Loving yourself is determining the good and abundant life that you want to live and what that looks like for you. Denying yourself that abundant life is not loving yourself at all. Over time, I had to learn how to put limits, set boundaries, be the final approval or disapproval of who and what was going to be in my life. Love yourself enough to take care of yourself, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, financially and physically without fear or regret. Love yourself enough to walk away and don’t look back.
Limitless Life – My father always said that I could do anything any human being could do. I not only remembered it but I started doing it. I had no responsibilities to anyone but myself. I was finally going to be true, good and honest to me. I took the limits off of my life and over time, the control out of the hands of others including my family. When I recognized who I really was and realized the life that I could lead, there was no stopping me. I have never been a natural risk taker, but I have taken more risk since 1993 than I ever thought possible. Through tears and pain, I decided as long as I can, breath, think and believe that I can, I can and will. Take the limits off of your life!
Live Out My Purpose – I found my purpose as I walked out my journey. It wasn’t a perfect path because I am not a perfect person. I have made mistakes, bad decisions and trusted some wrong people but I acknowledged the mistake, held myself accountable, got back up, got on the right road and got moving even faster than before. I discover more about myself each day, month and year that I live. Each time I say yes to something new, discard the unnecessary, remove all distractions, love without hesitation, I am greeted with a new gift, talent, ability and opportunity to live.
Look with New Eyes – When I look in the mirror, I wink, blow kisses and tell myself that I am smart, cute and talented. Sure, I see the defects but call them possibilities. My husband tells me that I’m beautiful, intelligent and that he loves me every day. I am grateful but if he never said it, I have to look myself in the mirror and see someone smart enough, good enough, worthy enough to be a success in every area of my life. It’s how you see yourself and what you tell yourself that matters.
I have been asked to reflect on my writing processes and methods as an author. While reflecting on my writing, I realize that my writing has been exciting, scary and a painful process all at the same time. I begin with painful because when I was in school, I got an “F” on my paper in 5th grade for my handwriting and not my ideas. I believe that was my first serious critique of my writing. As much as I loved to read and was a good reader, I lost confidence in my writing and it began there. In college, I had problems with organizing my writing in a systematic format. I received a failing grade on my first freshman English paper. This was scary because I needed English to get my degree. Thankfully, I went to a small liberal arts school with nuns and priests who gladly assisted me to develop my writing skills. My junior year in college, I started working part-time for a law firm in their library and it was there that my library career began. I loved it but still had no desire to write a book even after 30 years in libraries. While in graduate school, I had my first taste of victory with my writing by my research professor. After so many years of feeling like a failure as a writer, she told me, “you write well enough to complete a dissertation.” I said, “me?” She replied, “yes you.” So, I did.
Fast forward to 2008, I published my first book of poetry. Who knew? Today, I have written 20 plus books of my own as well as coached and published the books of many others. What is my process?
The Conclusion. I start with the end in mind. Why am I writing the book? What do I want the reader to learn from my book? Why should a person read my book and what should be the take away or learning points? In essence, what is the message of my book.
The Contents. What do I want to include in the book so that the reader gets the message. With my non-fiction, it is clear, I want to include 30 devotionals about a certain subject. OR, with my fiction writing, I outline what scenes I want to include in the book and determine the path, twists and turns that the main and secondary characters will take to get to the destination.
The Cover. Does the cover represent the contents and the conclusion? I ask my team of advisors as well as post the covers to my database lists and social media to get the opinions of others. When I publish and coach other authors, I advise them about the book cover but encourage them to let their readers, followers, friends and family have input into the book’s cover. Why? If others like your book, they are more likely to purchase it and recommend others to purchase it.
The Cost. I know that you wonder why cost is the last thing that I think about, but it is. Why? Because if the book is well written with a message that connects and is appealing, people will buy it. Secondly, I compare the prices of books in the same genre, page length and topic area especially bestsellers to determine my cost. Most first time authors are concerned about the cost of the book, royalties and sales. It should be a concern but not the first concern when the book is not even finished or in some cases, started. If it is quality, interesting and in demand, people will buy it.
Finally, I encourage new authors and especially those writing memoirs and fiction to have an outline. An outline will be the frame work for the book similar to the foundation and beams necessary to build a house. I personally have trouble ending a book rather than starting, so an outline and an idea of how I want the book to end is critical for me. I personally call it knowing how to “land the plane.” Once you have the outline, you just fill in the contents or text under each outline heading and your rough draft of your book is finished. It is not perfect yet but at least, the rough draft is finished. For more information, visit http://www.bkroystonpublishing.com and to get started, got to http://bit.ly/roystonwriterspackage.