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Self-Talk

Self-TalkWhat areyou sayingto Yourself_

Self-Talk:  What Do You Tell Yourself?

 

It was 1963 and the doctor said, “It is a girl!”  My parents were thrilled but concerned when they saw that my toes were pointed east and west rather than north and south.  For the first nine years of life, there was much time and money spent on doctor visits.  “Julia has a terrible speech impediment.”  “Julia’s vision is 200/200 rather than 20/20.”  “Mr. and Mrs. Foree, Julia has failed the hearing test.”  A nurse said in a crowded gym for all to hear, “Julia Foree’s weight is 100 lbs. and she’s six years old.”   There have been countless unhappy moments surrounding my weight but, overall, I’ve had a happy life.  I have wonderful, loving parents, two sisters who were opposite from me but somewhere behind those grimaced faces they really do love me.

In everyone’s life there are good and bad times, achievement, excitement, disappointment and failure. I have had my share.  Over the course of my life, I have learned to maximize the positive and minimize the negative.  I don’t avoid or run from negativity in my life but I realize that I can’t control others or dwell on their opinion of me.

Being the fat girl, wearing glasses with a speech impediment wasn’t pretty and definitely wasn’t fun.  As I got older, I had the nerve to shade the lenses color on my glasses.  Sometimes it was rose, other times it was brown and once it was even blue.  Yuck, what was I thinking but I was trying to make the most of my poor vision by trying to make it as stylish as possible.   Surprisingly, I always had friend.  I was fun, cute for a fat girl, people often said, outgoing, talkative and gifted.  My gift is what saved my life.  At nine, I sang my first solo in church and my life changed forever.  I had a gift like no other nine-year-old or some teenagers for that matter.  Throughout my teenage years, I didn’t have many dates with boys but I had a lot of dates to sing in churches around the city, state and nation.  From the eight track player to the record player to the cassette tapes to boom boxes and CD players.  I had it all.  My parents gave me all of the tools to support my gift.  The one thing they couldn’t give me was a positive self-image.  I had confidence on the stage, academically above average in the classroom and played a musical instrument through college but when I looked in the mirror, I didn’t see much.  I would laugh at myself more than anyone laughed at me.  My family often tells me that I wasn’t as fat as I made myself out to be.  But, it’s what you tell yourself that counts.  Self-talk can demean you more than anyone else can.  I had great friends who would defend me against anyone.  I went to dances.  I went to prom.    My family went on vacations every year and in my circle, I was popular.  I didn’t live in a dysfunctional family or was abused by anyone.  I did every conceivable diet known to man but lost and gained weight repeatedly.  It was frustrating but it took a toll on my self-esteem.  Remember it’s what you say to yourself, how you see yourself and the boundaries, limits and tolerance level that you place on yourself that matters.  Maximizing the positive should have been easy because there were so many positive things going on in my life, but instead, I allowed the one negative aspect of my life to magnify and intensify my poor self-image.

In my senior year in college, there was a young man stationed in the military who came to my church.  He was handsome, manner able and suddenly took an interest in me.  It was a shock to me.  I had so little experience that I was hesitant, skeptical and turned him down repeatedly but he didn’t take no for an answer.  There were several other young women and their mothers who were certainly interested in him, but he chose me.  Finally, I had a good announcement, I had a boyfriend, then a fiancé and then a husband.  It was a miracle.  It lasted for four years as a couple and eight years on paper.

It is now 1993 and the announcement from my ex-husband that ended the marriage was, “My mama says you have to go.”  This was clearly the lowest moment in my life.  I was more than 1100 miles from home, little money, in my night gown, rollers in my hair, my clothes being tossed into a suitcase by a man who said he loved me but his mama said I had to go so I had to go.  This was the last straw of a situation that had too many details to name here but this was finally it.  I had had enough of a bad situation.  At that moment, it didn’t matter about my weight, it mattered about my life.  I stayed that night but the next day, I took action.  I quit my job, emptied my bank account, called my father to make arrangements to have someone come and drive me home.  I had a safe place to be until they arrived and it was all set.

I got home, worked temp services and then enrolled in a graduate program which I completed in one year while working two jobs.  I was headed in a new direction with new people to meet, places to go and things to experience.

What did I learn?

Love Yourself – Sure, I should take care of myself, eat better, exercise more and maybe lose weight but what good is a perfect body with a tormented soul?  I first had to fall in love with me.  This is not an arrogant, self-centered, self-absorbed, can’t stand to be around her type of love, this is a love of myself so that I can be the best self that I was destined to be.  You don’t love yourself when you allow yourself to stay in toxic mental, emotional and financial relationships.  Loving yourself is determining the good and abundant life that you want to live and what that looks like for you.   Denying yourself that abundant life is not loving yourself at all.  Over time, I had to learn how to put limits, set boundaries, be the final approval or disapproval of who and what was going to be in my life.  Love yourself enough to take care of yourself, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, financially and physically without fear or regret.    Love yourself enough to walk away and don’t look back.

Limitless Life – My father always said that I could do anything any human being could do.  I not only remembered it but I started doing it.  I had no responsibilities to anyone but myself.  I was finally going to be true, good and honest to me.  I took the limits off of my life and over time, the control out of the hands of others including my family.  When I recognized who I really was and realized the life that I could lead, there was no stopping me.  I have never been a natural risk taker, but I have taken more risk since 1993 than I ever thought possible.  Through tears and pain, I decided as long as I can, breath, think and believe that I can, I can and will.  Take the limits off of your life!

Live Out My Purpose – I found my purpose as I walked out my journey.  It wasn’t a perfect path because I am not a perfect person.  I have made mistakes, bad decisions and trusted some wrong people but I acknowledged the mistake, held myself accountable, got back up, got on the right road and got moving even faster than before.  I discover more about myself each day, month and year that I live.  Each time I say yes to something new, discard the unnecessary, remove all distractions, love without hesitation, I am greeted with a new gift, talent, ability and opportunity to live.

Look with New Eyes – When I look in the mirror, I wink, blow kisses and tell myself that I am smart, cute and talented.  Sure, I see the defects but call them possibilities.  My husband tells me that I’m beautiful, intelligent and that he loves me every day.  I am grateful but if he never said it, I have to look myself in the mirror and see someone smart enough, good enough, worthy enough to be a success in every area of my life.  It’s how you see yourself and what you tell yourself that matters.

 

 

I have been asked to reflect on my writing processes and methods as an author.  While reflecting on my writing, I realize that my writing has been exciting, scary and a painful process all at the same time.  I begin with painful because when I was in school, I got an “F” on my paper in 5th grade for my handwriting and not my ideas.  I believe that was my first serious critique of my writing.  As much as I loved to read and was a good reader, I lost confidence in my writing and it began there.  In college, I had problems with organizing my writing in a systematic format.  I received a failing grade on my first freshman English paper.  This was scary because I needed English to get my degree.  Thankfully, I went to a small liberal arts school with nuns and priests who gladly assisted me to develop my writing skills.  My junior year in college, I started working part-time for a law firm in their library and it was there that my library career began.  I loved it but still had no desire to write a book even after 30 years in libraries.  While in graduate school, I had my first taste of victory with my writing by my research professor.  After so many years of feeling like a failure as a writer, she told me, “you write well enough to complete a dissertation.”  I said, “me?”  She replied, “yes you.”  So, I did.

Fast forward to 2008, I published my first book of poetry.   Who knew?  Today, I have written 20 plus books of my own as well as coached and published the books of many others.  What is my process?

The Conclusion.  I start with the end in mind.  Why am I writing the book?  What do I want the reader to learn from my book?  Why should a person read my book and what should be the take away or learning points?  In essence, what is the message of my book.

The Contents.  What do I want to include in the book so that the reader gets the message.  With my non-fiction, it is clear, I want to include 30 devotionals about a certain subject.  OR, with my fiction writing, I outline what scenes I want to include in the book and determine the path, twists and turns that the main and secondary characters will take to get to the destination.

The Cover.  Does the cover represent the contents and the conclusion?  I ask my team of advisors as well as post the covers to my database lists and social media to get the opinions of others.  When I publish and coach other authors, I advise them about the book cover but encourage them to let their readers, followers, friends and family have input into the book’s cover.  Why? If others like your book, they are more likely to purchase it and recommend others to purchase it.

The Cost.  I know that you wonder why cost is the last thing that I think about, but it is.  Why?  Because if the book is well written with a message that connects and is appealing, people will buy it.  Secondly, I compare the prices of books in the same genre, page length and topic area especially bestsellers to determine my cost.  Most first time authors are concerned about the cost of the book, royalties and sales.  It should be a concern but not the first concern when the book is not even finished or in some cases, started.  If it is quality, interesting and in demand, people will buy it.

Finally, I encourage new authors and especially those writing memoirs and fiction to have an outline.  An outline will be the frame work for the book similar to the foundation and beams necessary to build a house.  I personally have trouble ending a book rather than starting, so an outline and an idea of how I want the book to end is critical for me.  I personally call it knowing how to “land the plane.”  Once you have the outline, you just fill in the contents or text under each outline heading and your rough draft of your book is finished.  It is not perfect yet but at least, the rough draft is finished.  For more information, visit http://www.bkroystonpublishing.com and to get started, got to http://bit.ly/roystonwriterspackage.

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Is it the big one, Elizabeth? Redd Fox made the phrase, “It’s the big one Elizabeth” famous on the Sanford and Son Television Show.  If there was some shocking news or unexpected turn of events, he grabbed his chest like he was having a heart attack while saying the phrase.  We all laughed.  Those that have had a heart attack know it’s not funny but, in another context, has anything attacked your heart lately?  I mean has anything gotten down in your spirit, set your soul on fire, got your body in motion and/or kept you up at night?  Has this big one caused you to develop a plan of action, do some research or make some phone calls?  Is it the big one?  Is this the big thing that you’ve really always seen yourself doing, having or being?  If not, it’s not the big one.  It’s a false alarm.  The prelude to the big one.  If it is really the big thing, the main thing and the dream thing for your life, you will do something.  I hear people say all of the time, I’ve always dreamed of doing or I really want to do or I would love to do or one day I’m gonna do…BUT, I can’t afford to do right now.  Well, even if it is not the right time for the big one, do you know all about it?  Do you read books, articles, visit websites, go to the library and do research about that dream, vision, call or loved big thing?  If not, that’s not it.  Stop talking about it.  I am convinced that people just like to hear themselves talk.  Because if there was something that you really loved, desired and wanted bad enough, you would do something to get it, learn about it or layaway for it.  Your actions will tell, not your mouth, if this really is the big one Elizabeth…

Partners for a Purpose

Partners for a Purpose

7 And they beckoned unto their partners, which were in the other ship, that they should come and help them. And they came, and filled both the ships, so that they began to sink.  Luke 5:7 (KJV)

When my mother was about to cook something new for dinner, she would take the recipe to the store with her.  All of the ingredients would be listed and she could just buy everything that was on the recipe.  She didn’t have to worry whether it was in the kitchen cabinet already.  She would buy everything she needed at one time.  At home, she would take everything out of the bag and ready to cook the item.  Simple.  No problems and the dinner was great.

But, there are some projects that are not as simple as an entrée for dinner.  Some projects take a team to complete.  What if you had been working on a project for months?  When it is time to complete the project, you have a disagreement or just an emergency arises and the people you counted on to help you suddenly can’t?  What do you do?  You first, pray.  You second, pray some more.  Then next you look around you for people who are willing to help you.

In the Bible, Peter was an expert fisherman with an actual fishing business.  Jesus told him to launch out into the deep for fish.  He did as Jesus told him.  When the harvest of fish came in, Peter could not bring all of the fish in on his boat or his boat would break.  Peter called for his partners with their boats to come help him bring the load in.  God knew you would have a harvest to bring in.  He also knew exactly the people that HE wanted to help you bring it in.  My prayer today is that God bring the right people into your life but, that you recognize them for who they are, “Your Partners for a Purpose.”

Prayer:  God bless my friends with what they need, who they need and when they need it to fulfill your purpose today!

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